They suck.

I haven’t given up blogging, swear.  Just alternately cursing the sun and, when meds are working, trying to catch up on other stuff.

The wedding was great, in case you’re wondering!  I love watching people in love, and weddings are one of the best places to find them.  Not only the happy couple, but all the couples in attendance. Weddings seem to remind everyone of why and how they fell in love in the first place, and much sweetness ensues.  I just adore being in the midst of it.

I may be weird, or maybe it’s a career thing since I’m a romance novelist…but PDA (public display of affection) rarely bothers me.  The other night I was in the grocery store, and there was this cute young couple chasing one another around the produce section, canoodling amongst the cantaloupes, and it just made me so happy to see them.  They radiated bliss.

My favorite place to see couples in love?  Disneyland.  Seriously, it really is the happiest (and kissiest) place on earth.

How about you?  Does PDA ick you out?  Or are you a happy-couple voyeur, like me?

14 comments to “Migraines…”

  1. Maria
    · December 10th, 2008 at 11:35 am · Link

    I like pda, especially when I see it in old people. It’s nice to see love last.

  2. Maggie Robinson
    · December 10th, 2008 at 2:19 pm · Link

    I work in a high school, where I see way too much PDA that just isn’t cute. I have seen so much cleavage lately (and it’s December! In Maine! There’s snow!) that I think I’ve wandered into a porn shoot. There are a ton of pregnant girls. We have a nursery school/day care deal. The obvious results of PDA are everywhere. But I certainly don’t mind it outside of school. I’m not a complete Scrooge. 🙂

  3. Janga
    · December 10th, 2008 at 2:19 pm · Link

    I’m glad to hear the wedding was wonderful. CM deserves perfection. 🙂

    As for PDA, there’s “Aww, sweet!” and there’s “Get a room.” During my years in the classroom, I saw both; only the latter bothers me. My guess is that there’s more PDA per square foot on college campuses in the spring than anywhere else on earth. 🙂

    I always enjoy the early stages. Last spring a couple met every day just outside my office, and I watched (and listened) as they progressed from conversation to standing close together to holding hands to gazing into one another’s eyes to kisses and whispered exchanges. I loved watching them and silently wishing them well. They always made me want to burst into “Hello, Young Lovers.”

  4. Evangeline
    · December 10th, 2008 at 3:05 pm · Link

    I’m not a big fan of it per se, but I don’t mind it. Oddly enough, I find myself more choked up when I see parents with their children–especially men with their kids. It’s just so endearing. But I don’t have any of my own!

  5. Elyssa
    · December 10th, 2008 at 3:18 pm · Link

    I’m with Maggie. Working in a high school gives a whole new interpretation to PDAs. Oh, the glory of teenage hormones. Not fun at all.

    I guess it depends on the level of PDA for me. How’s that for a non-answer? LOL.

  6. Elyssa
    · December 10th, 2008 at 3:21 pm · Link

    Oh, and I hope you feel better. I get migraines, too; they’re just horrible.

  7. Santa
    · December 10th, 2008 at 11:44 pm · Link

    PDAs don’t bother me unless they get a bit, um, personal right there out in the open. I’m all for the subtle touch, the gazing, the kiss on the temple. My DH was a master at this when we were dating – some of which was long distance. He’d walk toward me, cup my face in his hands, smile into my eyes and run his thumbs along my cheekbones. *sigh*. It still does it for me every time.

  8. Judy Gasperini
    · December 11th, 2008 at 7:33 am · Link

    I’m embarrassed by PDA and usually turn away. I think I might be a little jealous too.
    Anyway, have you tried acupuncture for your migraines? That’s why my doctor became an acupuncturist.

  9. irisheyes
    · December 11th, 2008 at 8:11 am · Link

    I grew up in a household where PDAs were unheard of. I married a man who is very demonstrative. So, through the years, I’ve become a little more comfortable with my own as well as other’s PDAs. That being said… I now have a teenage girl and am wary of inappropriate PDAs. I wanted my children to grow up in a loving environment and being comfortable with PDAs. Now that they may be sharing those said PDAs with a randy, hormone charged teenager I’m re-thinking the sanity of my previous thoughts! LOL

    I’m sympathizing big time with you on the migraines today! Spent all day yesterday Xmas shopping and came home last night not able to stand upright. Had to go through the whole dark room, cold pack on my head, heat on my feet after taking 2 Excedrin (which kept me wide awake for the pain). I’m kind of stubborn and don’t like to take the meds prescribed. I’m going to a chiropractor and changing around my diet (avoiding allergens) and it’s helping, Tessa. I’m getting them less and less.

  10. Tessa
    · December 11th, 2008 at 8:54 am · Link

    Hi everyone! You’re very sweet to be passing on the migraine advice. Actually, I’m lucky that I don’t get them too often or too severely. I’ve gotten pretty good at recognizing the triggers, and if I take some medicine when I first get that little tingle, I usually skip the whole thing. It’s just this one snuck up on me overnight…grrr. That’s when I get to that dark room phase, like Irisheyes.

    The thoughts on PDA are all very interesting. I guess there is a line, and I’d be more likely to see people crossing it if I worked in a high school or on a college campus! But I don’t know – even the hormonal teenagers have to get really sloppy before they bother me. I think I’m intrigued because it’s such a fascinating experience, watching teenage courtship from this older and wiser vantage. For example, I never realized until I was an adult just how many boys kiss with their eyes wide open! LOL. Silly me, I always thought they were closing them, like I was.

    Beyond PDA, what I love about watching youthfulness in action (I’m one of those weird people who really likes teenagers) is that there are no half-measures. Everything is of vital, immediate, life-or-death importance. I’ve always wanted to write YA someday, because I love the earnestness with which young people approach relationships, friendships, etc.

    Now, when my own daughter approaches that age…I’m sure I’ll look on the whole thing differently. 🙂

    Santa – that worked for *me*, just reading it! sigh….

  11. Elyssa
    · December 11th, 2008 at 12:52 pm · Link

    Santa, your hubby is a keeper! That had me going all soft and swoony. Okay, one PDA I could definitely get behind is a kiss in a train station like the one in North & South, or airport, or anything of that ilk.

    Tessa, the high school PDAs can be very sweet. I really enjoyed teaching seniors last year because they were so refreshingly honest and trying to find their way into upcoming adulthood. It made me realize how young I really was at that age and how much I didn’t know. But, I do agree—a big draw to me for the YA is the voice of the narrator and how it’s a brand new discovery of a world. Everything seems possible at that age.

    So I guess I am pro-PDA after all. LOL.

  12. Santa
    · December 11th, 2008 at 9:50 pm · Link

    Thanks guys. I think I’ll keep him. 🙂

    And Ely’s right about the goodbye kiss. Definately sigh-worthy.

  13. Gillian
    · December 12th, 2008 at 9:00 am · Link

    Sorry about the migraines, Tessa. I’m fighting my own bout right now, brought on by the wild temperature swings and weather fronts of the Midwest, I’m sure.

    PDA’s don’t bother me until they feel “rehearsed”, like the couple is only about being seen. Hubby and I have put on a few of our own when reunited at the airport, as he works away often. We were once told it’s a comfort to know that at our “advanced” age of 40+, the romance was still there.

    Um, yes, it is. 🙂

  14. terrio
    · December 12th, 2008 at 8:44 am · Link

    Sorry I’m so late. Happy to hear the wedding was nice. And sorry to hear about the migraine. I get frequent headaches but am lucky they don’t turn into migraines.

    PDAs don’t bother me most of the time. Unless I think the next step is clothes flying off, then that “get a room” thing comes into play. I didn’t used to be much on showing affection but I’ve gotten more affectionate as I’ve gotten older. Not sure why.

    My kiddo is really affectionate and she complained to me the other day that we don’t hug enough. I thought that was cute and since she’s about to hit double digits and then the pre-teen thing, I figure I’d better take all the hugs I can get now.