TMI Tuesday – You can dish it out…
So here’s something I noticed this weekend. I am far, far more comfortable receiving criticism than praise.
Cases in point:
Last Friday, shortly before our CP summit was to convene, a certain CP and I had an email exchange in which certain ugly truths were brought to light. The main of which being, she doesn’t like my current hero. Which she clarified as being a real, active dislike of my hero. As opposed to Jeremy, the hero of GOTH, whom she simply didn’t find especially likable for most of the first draft.
This was not a big shock, sadly. I had suspected this was the case. And it took about ten minutes of grumbling before I got over it and started thinking of ways to rehabilitate my hero’s image. Because he is not just a likable guy, he is a lovable guy! And I am somehow failing him. I can only conclude this is happening because I am so desperately in love with my own character, I am neglecting to endear him to everyone else. Anyhow, it’s fixable. It was very hard criticism, but I took it in stride.
Contrast with this the unmitigated horror of receiving an award and roses in front of what felt like hundreds of strangers. And having the same CP, plus the other CP, persistently gushing about me to everyone in earshot despite my countless pleadings that they stop already!!! It made me itchy.
I have concluded that I would far rather be pilloried than praised. Why is this? Does it signify some deep-seated psychological issues? Or is it because women are trained to be demure and self-effacing? I don’t know. I think it’s just me.
How about you? Which do you take better – criticism or praise? Why?
And this is why Mr. Dare is so perfect for me.
Someone said to him over the weekend, “You must be so proud!”
His response? “I left it in the car.” (Evidently, he heard “you must be so proud” as “where’s your iPod?”)